Ok–here is my story, any advice is greatly needed and appreciated. I met my husband when we were both 25, independant college grads and professionals (he a mil. officer, me a teacher). We dated for over 2 yrs before we got married and everything was close to perfect. Yes, we had our normal spats but he always acted so in love with me and all of my friends were so jealous….Well, after being married for only a month I got on the laptop and noticed he had left his email up, out of pure curiousity, I clicked on his messages (never in a million years intended on finding anything), well it showed he had been emailing a woman for almost **** pics of herself. He replied a few times saying, “thanks that made my day” and how “beautiful” she was. Well this was such blow because not to brag, I am a very attractive person. We have a great *** life and we love experimenting and we are both very sexual. The woman he emailed was a woman from a football message bd he visited and she would never email him directly, it was just a mass email of the men that asked her to (after she offered). Well, I confronted him and he was VERY remorsefull and apologized and said it was stupid and he would NEVER do it again.
I figured out his password to his email and checked it frequently. Well, I eventually forgave and he was called to go back to Iraq for a 15 month deployment. Let me back up for a moment the first time he was in Iraq (before we dated)he told me he had a brief sexual relationship with another soldier over there, but I never cared since he was single and it was before me. Well, he wasnt over there a month before I found out he was emailing her asking her for a **** pic of herself, they flirted back and forth and of course I confronted him AGAIN. And AGAIN he was extremely remorseful and begged for forgiveness and even cried to me, saying he couldnt live without me, etc……Well, I forgave AGAIN. After a few months I started to heal and get over it, well I checked his email out of the blue a few days ago and I found another email from her that said, “I am sorry for slapping you”. Of course this was such a blow and KILLED me and once I again I confronted him……He admitted they had been emailing on his military acct and he even forwarded some of them to me. He said she slapped him when they walked by each other and he swore on my life he has never cheated, I have begged him to tell me if he cheated and he is adament that he never did. The emails were flirting talking about sending **** pics and even maybe meeting…..
I am crushed…He has promised to get counseling when he gets back and is extremely remorseful. I guess I need advice. Will he EVER change? Could counseling indeed help? He won’t be home for another 11 months and I have to worry about what he is doing. I am distraught and disgusted. The way I see it, it would be a lot easier to get out now then later, but is this grounds for divorce? Should I forgive him? What do I do???

Now he’s mad at me for “deactivating” his facebook account. He tells me that he loves me and is faithful but I don’t appreciate his secrecy and some of the things he said about me in his emails to her. He’s also refusing to change his cell phone number because it would be a hassle. Seems like he’s just not that into me. Would I be nuts to stick with this guy? I can’t believe he’s trying to justify his behavior.

If you are separated from an abusive husband and he keeps calling you, sending pizza to your home and sending email messages to you. He also has a copy of the key of your car and drives it at night when you’re asleep or when you’re indoors. What would you do?

(He even tried to use his keys come into the house one nigh at 1 a.m.t, but couldn’t because I changed the locks a day before).

My wife and I have been married for 10yrs and she has never mentioned this guys as a individual in her life like “her brother” They guys has contacted her and wants to here back and when I answered back with some concerns, I was yelled at like I should have no problems with anything she does with past friends that I have never heard of (for 10 yrs)

How do you think I should feel or react about this?

I still have feelings for her. what should i do?

When I email my lady friends I always tend to throw little sexual comments in the convo. They always reply back with mutual response. So I’m thinking that they’re thinking the same thing I am. It’s like a sneaky kind of turn on I guess. I don’t know.